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A lowcountry anniversary

May 21st is an important day in our family. When I was 4 1/2 years old, it was the day I became a big sister. On that day in 1977, I didn’t yet realize what that meant. It meant I got Donnie and Marie Osmond dolls as a gift and that was pretty neat, but it was a few more days before I started to comprehend that there were now 2 babies at my house and they were there to stay. Over the coming years the responsibility of being a big sister became something I both loved and hated at times. But through it all, I always loved those 2 babies that came unexpectedly as a package deal on May 21st. So the first anniversary we celebrate on this day is the gift of Pam and Angie, who today turn 40 years old. I’m so proud to be their “big” sister (even though they grew past me years ago) and I’m glad to have them to celebrate today.


P & A circa May 21, 1977

15 years after I became a big sister, I met a guy. Well, I’d met lots of guys before him, but I met a particular guy in May of 1992. He was funny, good looking, and OLDER – with a really cool truck. And he liked photography and sports, two things I liked a lot too. When I met him at a grimy, noisy dirt race track back then, I didn’t think much of it other than it would be fun to spend my summer break flirting with him before I went back to Nashville for my sophomore year of college. I never imagined that by the end of the summer he would be proclaiming his love a few days before I packed up to go back down South. Even more unbelievable was the idea that on May 21, 1994, I would marry that goofy guy – but I did. So twenty-three years ago we added another anniversary to this day, and through many ups and downs and curves we never expected, we’ve built a life together over these years.


Me & K, May, 21, 1994

It wasn’t until I was looking at my Facebook memories today that I realized May 21 has yet another anniversary for me. It was on May 21, 2011 that K and I first stepped foot in the lowcountry for the first time. We were visiting before K made his decision about where to apply for grad school. My comment on Facebook was “the lowcountry is beautiful. I’m fascinated by the trees and the window glass.” We were in Beaufort, SC at the time, on our way to Savannah. I again had no idea that this day would mark another big transition in my life. A little over a year later we moved to Savannah where we would spend the next 4 years making facing new challenges, making friends and having fun. Then in August of last year we moved again, this time bringing us to the heart of the lowcountry I fell in love with on this day a few years before. So today also marks that anniversary.

Kev taking pics

Beaufort. SC, 2011

Now let me say, none of these transitions was easy for me. I don’t adapt to change easily (that may be the biggest understatement ever.) But in hindsight, all of these dates mark important times in my life. All of them have lead to things I never could have imagined feeling and experiencing. My sisters have become 2 of the most important people in my life, and every day I am so proud of them for their strength, compassion, beauty and love. I can’t imagine not being P & A’s big sister. And for being K’s wife, well, that’s been one adventure after another. Nothing we have done has been done conventionally. But today we mark 23 years of travelling our own path our own way. We have fashioned a good life together, chased dreams, and picked each other up many times along the way. We have an amazing little family with the Wildman, and now we are living it here in the beautiful scenery of South Carolina. This place feels like home more and more every day.

So today I celebrate all these anniversaries, and I’m truly thankful for every single one.


Hitting the Reset Button

Remember back in the olden days when we first had video games in our homes? If you were playing a game and didn’t like how things were going, there was this magic little button you could push and everything would just start all over. Just hit “reset” and you got a fresh start. Now, this sounds like a great thing, unless you happened to be playing a 2 player game and you were beating your little sister, who then decided to hit “reset” and all your hard work was erased in the blink of an eye. Then it was a terrible thing and you suddenly had homicidal thoughts about your own flesh and blood. But right now I want you to think about it as a great thing.

Don’t you just wish you had one of those buttons some days? Or maybe weeks or years? I know I do. The last couple of years have been tough for me. The relocation didn’t sit well with me. That’s why I haven’t written. I’ve thought about it many times, but I didn’t want to explain why the long absence. But I spent most of the last 2 years in a deep depression, a dark place that was of my own making in many ways. However, 2014 did bring me some very bright spots and many happy days. I laughed more and remembered how to have fun. I reconnected with friends I love and was able to spend quality time with them. We had good times with friends we’ve made here in Savannah. And to top it all off, I had family with me on Christmas for the first time in 8 years. There were memories made that I will treasure forever.

This place is too beautiful not to enjoy it.

This place is too beautiful not to enjoy it.

Most of all though, I realized that life has to be lived. You get out of it what you put into it, and if you aren’t putting any fun into life, you won’t get any out of it.

So I’m hitting my reset button for 2015. While I could make many resolutions, I’m just making a statement: This year, I’m going to live my life and not just let it happen. That’s going to encompass all for me. I’m going to do away with the negativity and focus on the fun. Every day I’m going to wake up and LIVE.